10 ways to build Self-Esteem in your child

10 ways to build Self-Esteem in your child

Your child’s self-esteem is one of the most significant things to build. The way they grow up is entirely dependent on their sense of self-worth, and a childhood composed of low confidence can be detrimental for them. As a parent, your responsibility revolves around encouraging your child to grow up in the best manner possible, Which means helping them build their self-esteem through several ways, such as being a good role model and spend time with your child. In this article, I have listed down the ways you can build your child’s self-esteem.
Parents need to fill a child’s bucket of self-esteem so high that the rest of the world can’t poke enough holes to drain it dry… Alvin Price

1. Show love to your child

When you love your child, and they feel secure in that love, they’ll grow up with the confidence that they know what genuine support and care are. Children have secure self-esteem when they have the necessary love needed from their parents. Loving them means treating them with the purest of intentions and doing everything you can to support them.

2. Encourage a child to think calm when in trouble

In times of trouble, avoid reprimanding them right away but instead, let them calmly think on their own toes. You’ll still be there to support them, but you shouldn’t let your anger be the first emotion they get out of you. Your child needs to feel encouraged and guided in the right direction, even when they made a mistake.

3. Do not criticize

Many children grow up insecure and doubtful because their parents constantly criticize them for their flaws and imperfections. As a parent, you should encourage your child’s best aspects if you want them to be secure in their self-worth and identity. This is frankly one of the most significant things you can do for them. Instead, focus on the positive side of your child’s traits, as this is how they’ll feel loved and cared for.

4. Do not compare your child with others

One of the factors that cause children to feel insecure is when you compare them to other children and when they start to feel inferior in your eyes. It doesn’t matter if it’s their sibling or friend – your child doesn’t deserve to be compared to others as every child has a different set of abilities and skills.

5. Teach your child basic skills

Your job as a parent isn’t just focused on caring for them but also on teaching them the necessary life skills. You need to teach your child basic skills such as self-defense, interacting with others, house chores, communication, kindness, patience, and time management. Teaching your child the right skills and values will encourage them confidence even at a young age.

6. Be the model example

As a parent, you’re their primary role model in their lives and growing up, which is a very important factor. They’ll likely mirror your values and behaviour, so if you want your child to grow up with secure self-esteem, you should practice what you preach. Be confident enough so that your kids will likely adopt this growing up.

7. Let your child make their own choice

No matter how much you want to control their decisions, so they make the right ones, you need to let them experience things independently. This is extremely difficult for a parent, but it’s a necessary part of their growth and self-esteem.

8. Encourage your child to try new things

Help them try new skills and interests, whether it’s taking different classes or being supportive when they find a new hobby. You need to appreciate them enough in trying new things to help build their self-esteem. The more skills and interests they learn, the more confident they’ll be.

9. Praise your child but don’t overdo

Praising your child when they do something good has a significant benefit in building their self-esteem. But use your words wisely, be sincere, and honest because some encouraging words don’t always inspire kids with low self-esteem. Also, remember to use them occasionally; adequate parenting is all about balance and knowing when to praise your kids or reprimand them.

10. Avoid too much pressure on them

Pressure doesn’t encourage your child to grow up confident and secure, but it actually does the opposite. Kids who experience too much pressure and are expected to perform well are more likely to develop a higher risk of mental illness, sleep deprivation, and it may affect their self-esteem. Pressuring them acts similar to controlling them wherein they’ll feel the opposite of being loved and supported.

I hope this article was able to shed insight on ways you can help build your child’s self-esteem. Through these things mentioned above, you can be a caring parent and encourage your child to grow up in the healthiest manner possible.

31 thoughts on “10 ways to build Self-Esteem in your child

  1. I love how you say to balance the praise. It’s important to praise them, but not over inflate them to the point of selfishness. As a parent I’m always balancing my kids to be confident, secure, loved and humble. Thank you for such a great post advocating for children. 💕

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  2. Oh how great is that point of not comparing a child with others. They end up mirroring their success, achievements, capabilities and worth with others instead of how they’re uniquely wired and if they’re offering themselves in their full potential. This was great to read!

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    1. You sound just like me. Growing up as a child, self-esteem was something I struggled with. As I matured, I have developed a positive outlook in life, and I am responsible for everything in my life. I can stand up for myself and or push my point if I feel it is important.


  3. Wonderful post Pamela – When it comes to praise I often think it’s best to praise effort over results or natural talent. How hard they try matters most in my book. It’s hard to argue against the points you make here. Respect our children is important too. Just because we have to set boundaries doesn’t mean we can’t do it compassionately. I often find simply explaining it to them like you would an adult goes a long way. Wishing you well Pamela 🙏


  4. Amazing post. As a child of divorced marriage, I struggled a lot during my childhood to fit in surroundings.
    Even now I am in my 30s , the idea of having my own children still haunts me


    1. Sherry, same here. I lost my parents at a younger age. And self-esteem was something I struggled with because of my surroundings. But now I am in my 30s with my children the only thing I do every day is to make sure they don’t go through the same trauma I was.


  5. These are such great tips! I’ve been focusing on offering my child more choices and trying new things. I can see that both of those little changes are giving him a bit more confidence!


  6. These are great tips! I think it is so important to build your child’s self esteem as much as you can before they hit the teenage years.


  7. Just love this! Its so craze how we see the effects of childhood in parents. So looking forward to learning more and growing from such tips! Also love how you say let them think on their own toes! How true is that


  8. What a wonderful read. I totally believe that it is important to praise kids for their efforts rather than the outcome and not compare them with others but to help them find their own strengths.


  9. Love this! The longer we’ve been parentings, the more surprising all the little things we need to teach our children are. It’s not just being kind and respectful, but also how to shake hands and put laundry in a hamper instead of the floor.

    We are a big fan of choices in our house but man is it hard not to compare our children to each other. This is something we have to remember every day as they are all just a little (or a lot) different.


  10. Building self esteem in our children at a young age is so important to give them good life. I know this because once I was having a ver low esteem when I was a child


  11. These are all wonderful tips. Oh how I wish it completely worked, but it does not. Even by doing these things, the influence that the outside world has on our kids today is pretty strong. I have a child, and even with doing all of the above things still struggle with having decent self-esteem. She is constantly comparing HERSELF to her brother and those she sees online.
    It truly breaks my heart for her. However, I make darn certain daily to showcase to her how valuable SHE is as a person. I also make sure she knows how loved and wanted she is by our family. I do my best to point out all of her positive traits.

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    1. Hi Crystal, you are right 👉. The outside world has a lot of pressure on our kids. And I know the feeling as a parent. But reminding them how loved and valuable they are to their families and those around them. Does something in their personal growth.


  12. Building up my daughter’s self-esteem has not been an easy journey. We’ve been doing all of the above steps, but it’s still not fully working. She is the one who compares herself to her brother and those she sees online. It breaks our hearts to see her like this, but we can only do so much.

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